![]() Most parents don’t like to see their kids fight. And just as my brother and I emulated my mother’s concern, bonobos who had a mother are more likely to offer care and to have shorter periods of distress when being the “loser” of the playful scraps. In short, our ability to regulate emotions-an ability nurtured by our parents’ care-enabled us to engage in very intimate behavior that helped us to build bonds and trust. The research suggests that it was our mother’s care that enabled us to endure all those playful shoulder punches and slug-bugs, indicating the ability to give and accept low levels of pain without flying off the handle. Which brings me back to my brother and me. Learn the six habits of highly empathic people.ĭiscover the evolutionary roots of forgiveness.īut their study confirmed that emotion regulation is an essential part of empathy, in two primates who share 99 percent of the same DNA: bonobos and humans. Read this Q&A with Laurie Santos about the goodness that humans and apes have in common. Read Frans de Waal's essay on the evolution of empathy. “It may therefore be the orphans’ best strategy to avoid tense scenes, either by remaining distant from the core group or fleeing at the site of trouble.” “Social conflicts can be risky, with renewed aggression potentially igniting larger disturbances,” they write. Roots of reconciliationĬlay and de Waal, who is also a research fellow within the GGSC’s Expanding Gratitude project, emphasize that the orphans are behaving in a way that might be perfectly logical, given their situation. In short, bonobos raised with a mother’s love were better at regulating their own negative emotions and reacting empathically to the negative emotions of others. ![]() Orphans also tended more to avoid the distress of bout losers than did the mother-reared juveniles. So who was able to reconcile and who wasn’t? It turns out that bonobos who had been reared by a mother were able to play longer and reconcile faster than those who were orphans. Finally, they looked for any spontaneous comfort-inducing touch, stroking, embracing, and kissing between the two former opponents-especially degrees of responsiveness towards bonobos that were the “losers” of playful bouts. ![]() Then, the researchers assessed the apes’ emotional regulation by their length of post-bout distress and activities like self-scratching, which reveal anxiety. First, how long two bonobos were able to play before things went bad and they started fighting for real, which hinted at their relative social-emotional competency. That sad fact gave the researchers an opportunity to put attachment theory to the test with bonobos, and see how emotional skills are affected by parenting, and how that in turn affects relationships with others. Psychologists call this idea “attachment theory.”īut is this the case for other primates, like bonobos? And how might insight into the emotional lives of bonobos shed light on human development?īefore Clay and de Waal ever conducted their study, hunters had orphaned many of the bonobos observed by the researchers. Orphans or neglected children typically struggle to keep a lid on anger or sadness-and sometimes have trouble showing empathic concern for others. We know that in humans, consistent attention to a child’s needs by the caregiver creates a sense of emotional safety and predicts that child’s ability later in life to manage strong emotions and form caring relationships with other people. And they have very rich, complicated, sexually charged relationships with each other, not unlike people.īut their emotional lives and development are still a territory largely unexplored by scientists. They’re more likely to walk on two legs than other apes and they have smaller canine teeth, just like us. ![]() What human and ape kids have in common?īonobos are quite similar to humans. Their results, published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, reveal strong similarities between the emotional development of bonobos and that of human children-especially about the relationship between mothering, emotional regulation, and empathy for others. ![]()
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